The first step to sexually arousing women, probably isn’t
what you thought it would be. It’s got
NOTHING to do with being romantic. It’s
got NOTHING to do with saying sweet things or writing poems. It’s got NOTHING to do with buying flowers,
and it’s definitely got NOTHING to do with buying them drinks. It’s got NOTHING to do with the way you kiss
them, or the way you caress them (these two things happen AFTER you create
sexual arousal). No, most of these
things will NOT sexually arouse a women.
To create sexual arousal in a woman, you must first PROJECT a SEXUAL PERSONA and STATE OF BEING – in other words, the way you BEHAVE is what matters MOST, not so much what you SAY or DO. This is what will initially attract women to you in the first place, and start to create sexual arousal in them.
Let’s take Colin Farrell, Channing Tatum or Johnny Depp for example. Why do women think these guys are so sexy? Because of the sexual persona they project!
These guys OOZE sexual attraction! With their confidence, high awareness of their own sexuality and their powerful sexual state of BEING, they attract and arouse sexual feelings in women by merely being present (whether on-screen or in person). They’re NOT afraid to be sexual towards women (although not sleazy), and this lets the ladies enjoy the delicious sexual feelings that they arouse in them.
So how do YOU go about projecting a sexual persona and state of being?
It all starts with CONSCIOUS CONTROL over the sexual state that you are projecting, and the NON-VERBAL sexual language that you use. It’s all about projecting and OOZING sexuality - relaxed, confident and at complete ease with yourself and your surroundings. It’s about being completely comfortable and in total control of yourself in ANY social situation.
To illustrate, let’s take a quick look at the difference between an average guy and a Suave Man, in say, a bar or club situation.
When an average guy walks into a bar, what does he do?
He will usually stand in some out of the way place where he will not be noticed. Typically, he will be slouching (displaying weakness and laziness), holding his drink to his chest (a classic defensive posture) and looking around the room all shifty and wide eyed. He will usually be mesmerized by the dance floor and be content to just stand there and STARE at all the beautiful women dancing and moving around the bar. He definitely will NOT approach any of them to initiate an encounter.
Women are NOT going to notice him. He will be ignored by everyone of them, because he is NOT behaving in a sexually attractive way or making an EFFORT to be recognized. He is behaving in a typically weak social manner. His social status will be that of a reject and an outcast. Women are NOT sexually attracted to social rejects and outcasts!
Now the typical Suave Man projects a powerful sexual persona and state of being.He is relaxed, confident and dominant. He stands with a powerful, masculine, upright posture and moves with deliberate, purposeful control. He smiles at beautiful women (because he is NOT afraid of them), ALWAYS holds eye contact and isn’t the first to break it. But, he treats ALL women the same regardless of their beauty. He isn’t mesmerized by the dance floor, and he doesn’t hesitate to approach women or flinch when he does. He is friendly and popular, and has a HIGH social status. He IS cool, suave and SEXY. He KNOWS IT, and women KNOW IT!
That’s the difference. It’s all in the attitude and behavior. That’s why the average guy struggles to get laid! The average guy lacks the understanding of WHAT women are "instinctively” attracted to, and WHY. And, he just doesn’t behave in a manner that projects high social status or sexual attractiveness.
Ok, so now that we can see the differences between the two types of man, and why women are either attracted or not, we are now going to go over a powerful method you can use to create incredible sexual arousal.
Now, what women find sexually arousing, is a man who can create an atmosphere of SOCIAL and SEXUAL TENSION. Women like to FEEL their hearts racing. They LOVE it when a man can make their adrenaline pump, and make them feel like their heads are spinning and their blood is boiling.
To do that, we have to create a situation where there is slight tension and discomfort. But you have to ALWAYS remember to project an aura of complete sexual comfort and confidence. You have to remain in complete control of your emotions and your body. If you don’t, then women will just be freaked out by your behavior and you’ll blow your chances. Remember, women can sense your sexual relaxation – or lack of it. So it’s vitally important to always be in complete control of yourself at ALL times.
Here is the method I’ve used many times with great success.
When you see a woman you like – and you’ve been giving and getting good eye contact – approach her with a supremely confident swagger, projecting and oozing sexuality. Continue to look her in the eyes the whole time. Don’t worry about her friends, just focus on her. Without apologizing, invade her personal space, look her directly in the eyes and give her a "I know you think I’m hot” smile. Pause, lean back and playfully look her body up and down once. Look back into her eyes with a mischievous grin, and say "Hey.”
Because you’re so close to her, and because of your supreme confidence and coolness, her heart and adrenaline will be RACING. Guaranteed. And she won’t be able to keep her eyes off you. Her friends will most likely be giggling or dumb-struck because of the social tension you have just created. This is extremely sexy to women!
Now because you have just created this social tension – something that may never have happened to her before, especially if she is hot, because 99% of men don’t have the balls to be like this to hot women – then she is going to associate her adrenaline dump and heart racing to you.
And guess what that association is? That’s right: Sexual arousal caused by YOU!
It’s your non-verbal communication for projecting a sexual persona and state of being that is appealing to her sub-consciousness, her natural sexual instincts, and making her FEEL sexual attraction for you, and as a result, sexual arousal.
The next step, after creating social tension, is to create sexual tension. To do that, you need to implement the steps to escalating attraction.
Introduce yourself, have a chat to her and her group about what brings them out. Tease them and make fun of them. Engage them with interesting conversation e.g tell stories about experiences that display your attractive qualities – don’t brag about WHAT you have though, rather, subtly show off your behavioral and emotional traits through your stories. Captivate their attention by reading their palms or performing magic tricks.
After you have built up comfort, rapport and attraction, turn to your target woman and say to her "When a good song comes on, come and dance with me..” Just state it too, don’t ask. After the feelings you have just given her, there is NO WAY she is going to say "no.”
Now tell her you’ve gotta get back to your friends, turn around and walk away!
That’s right walk away. Average guys will NOT walk away when things are going so well. They continue to hang around, and hang around, until the woman finally gets bored and leaves instead. Because of their insecurities, they think if they go away they will lose her, when in all reality, they have already lost her.
Guess what? This is the REAL reason you NEED to walk away. Walking away now is THE best thing you can do because doing so creates SEXUAL TENSION.
By leaving her, you have just left a huge hole in her mind and reality. She will now be helpless to think about anything but YOU, and yearn for you to come back and give her those wonderful feelings again. She will be thinking to herself "How can he just go away and leave me feeling like this? Is he going to come back? When will he come back? If I feel like this towards him, does it mean I like him? I think I’m sexually attracted to him. Damn he’s HOT!”
After awhile (not too long though), but when you’re ready and when a good song comes on, go back, grab her by the hand and LEAD her to the dance floor. DON’T ASK, just do it. Leading her now displays your dominance and alpha maleness. She will now be even MORE attracted to you, because as we know, women respond sexually to powerful, dominant, alpha males.
Dance close. Let her feel your body up against hers. Let her feel the warmth of your face against her cheek. Lightly brush your lips past her ears and neck. This will drive her crazy with lust. The oxytocin in her body will be running wild.
Dance with her for a few songs, let the tension and lust build up and then break it off again. Take her back to her friends. Let things settle in her mind once again. Make her miss you again. Let those questions run through her mind again.
Next time you go back, it’ll be time to isolate her from her friends so she doesn’t feel like she is being judged. Being judged by her peers and then being deemed as a slut, is socially damaging to a woman’s reputation, and they will avoid this at all costs. So isolate her, then continue to turn the heat and tension up. Keep escalating the encounter until it gets to the stage where she wants to go faster than what you are going.
This is the type of tension that is the secret to sexually arousing women. Giving them great feelings, making them feel alive with powerful emotions, and then taking it away from them. Make them think and wonder, then go back, give them more great feelings, escalate your encounter to a new, heightened level, then stop. And on, and on, and on until she can’t take it anymore.
Try implementing this method next time you’re out on the town. Don’t be discouraged if it doesn’t work for you at first either. All it means is that your confidence levels are not yet high enough, and you need more practice.I know it’s a daunting task, and the risk of rejection is a hard obstacle to overcome, but honestly, if you really want to be successful with women, you have to do the hard yards.
Good luck, and happy hunting.